HTM 064 – A Moment’s Thought – How To Matter
In episode 64 of How To Matter, I discuss conversations and conversing. Most of us most of the time are only interested in what other people are saying to the extent that they are interested in what we have to say. That works just fine except when the conversation is truly important, when the conversation really matters. Then, we need to change our approach. The excerpt below serves as the handout for the episode and is an example of how not to proceed.
“Companion none is like unto the mind alone; for many have been harmed by speech; through thinking, few or none.” — Sir Thomas Vaux
You are slow to share your ideas and opinions. You certainly have a wide range of ideas and opinions on most everything of interest to you. Nonetheless, you usually only share your thoughts and perspectives when specifically asked to do so. Even then, you are frequently reluctant to verbalize your thoughts. Instead, you prefer continuing to scan and process what other people are saying. This is because your intuitive processes are continuously assimilating and interpreting the content and adjusting and reconsidering its meaning. You are just too busy listening to interrupt the process by talking. To convert what you think to conscious thought would require stopping and trying to find something to say. That would simply be too disruptive.