|Fully Qualified Jerk|
I found myself musing the other day about what it would take to be a Fully Qualified Jerk (FQJ). This musing was prompted by what struck me as an odd comment. The person I was talking with (Call him Harold.) was upset with someone else (Call him Joe.) Harold said, 'Joe is turning into a real jerk.'
This got me to musing. Apparently, Joe isn't a real jerk yet but is progressing in that direction. The what/why of turning into a real jerk is not clear to me but, according to Harold, Joe is doing it. I was drawn to the conclusion that some jerks are more qualified and others are less qualified, with 'real jerks' being the most qualified. There then must be at least a few jerks who are fully qualified. If we knew who they are, we could give them the title:
Fully Qualified Jerk (FQJ)
With the designation FQJ in mind, I asked a few folks in Leadership Village what special qualities and skills they thought one would need to deserve the FQJ designation. Of course, they didn't personally know anyone who qualified, especially no one in Leadership Village. Nonetheless, they did have some thoughts about jerks.
I have compiled their ideas here for your consideration. Collectively, they represent the current consensus on FQJ designations. To be an FQJ, one would need to behave such that at least half of the following characteristics would fairly apply to him (or her) on a frequent basis. It is possible to be a jerk now and then but Fully Qualified Jerks are jerks frequently, with most people, and in most situations. As Grandpa used to say, 'Bad manners come from being lazy and a tad ignorant. To be a real jerk requires serious dedication.'
Here's the list. Give some thought to people you know who make the grade as FQJ's. At the same time, give your best effort to assuring that no one has reason to think of you as an FQJ.
Try to intimidate
Yell at people
Condescend or demean
Think they are above the rules
Never praise anything or anyone
Enjoy making people uncomfortable
Slam doors and pound tables
Act as if they are superior or smarter
Swear and use course language
Withhold critical information
Use inappropriate humor
Give only negative feedback
Always look out for themselves
Blow up in meetings
Start every sentence with 'I'
Set impossible goals or deadlines for other people
Try to steal the spotlight and credit
Let others take the blame
Show a lack of caring for people
Betray trust or confidence
Embarrass and humiliate others
Gossip and spread rumors
Act as if others are stupid
Take things out on others
Ignore or isolate certain people
Never forgive or forget
Like getting even
|By Gary Crow March 23, 2017|